NEW WEBSITE

It never ceases to amaze me how the universe conspires with you when you're on the right path.  I had a coaching session with my life coach,Tim Brownson a week and a bit ago, and realised that I have a passion and really want to follow it.  After ages of talking myself out of it, I have realised that it is no use fighting the inevitable.  So I have embraced my destiny and committed myself to being a Fertility Coach. 

So, how is the universe conspiring?  Well, during the life coach session, I found that http://www.fertilitycoach.com/ was for sale. Firstly, we all know how difficult it is to find a good two-word URL, and one that is unequivocably relevant is akin to winning the lottery.  So I learned some stuff about domains and buying and registering, and decided to make an offer on the domain name, which was very expensive when converted from $ to Rands. 

In keeping with one of my two resolutions (I made them before New Year, so it doesn't count as a New Year's Resolution) - to ask for discounts (It's part of the other resolution, which is to step out of my comfort zones) - I made a very cheeky bid for a fifth of the price.  It was below the reserve, so I upped the price to just above the reserve.  The counter offer came in at four times what I offered, so I made another offer for less than half the counter offer.  Guess what?  THEY ACCEPTED IT!  So I got my site for a third of the original asking price, and at a much more affordable cost for me!

Then came a huge learning curve - I have had to learn wordpress so that I can set up my domain.  I also had to learn about hosting and CPanel and all sorts of other technical stuff.  It's been a lot of fun, and very overwhelming. 

That said, I am very very pleased to share with you my new website - please come and visit!
http://www.fertilitycoach.com/
(I have embraced my innergeek, and added a customised 404 page, which is what happens when the site can't find a requested page - '\xyz' after the website url, and it will take you to a surprise page). :)

To tell or not to tell?

I am one of those people who can't keep the news of my pregnancy to myself.  Many of you who read it will think me foolish (especially considering the risk), but I don't want to miss a moment of joy by being cautious.

Image: Tina Phillips

My inability to keep my mouth shut about the pregnancies also meant that I had a lot more people to tell when I miscarried, and that was difficult.  Whenever I shared the news, I felt as though I was disappointing the people I told, and it made my own disappointment that much more acute.  Even worse was when I forgot to tell someone, and they'd cheerfully ask me how the baby was when we met up again (when my guard was down, that sort of thing would make me tearful and awkward and could set me back emotionally, depending on my frame of mind at that moment).

So, with the help of my best friend, we devised a system to break the news of my miscarriages.  I'd tell her, and she'd spread the word, telling my friends to spread the word to everyone.  Yes, it meant that everyone knew, but they were all supportive, and it meant those moments where people would congratulate me after I'd miscarried were much rarer.  Also, it allowed me to go out and distract myself by socialising without fear of awkwardness which, for me, was much healthier than sitting at home wondering why this had happened.

At the end of the day, it is important to do what works for you - whether that means you share, or not.  Just know that the people around you support you in the best way they can, even though that means they put their foot in it sometimes.  They're disappointed for you, because you deserve more, not disappointed in you.